The manipulation of mindfulness into schools is cause for concern.
It is tough for our schooling systems to reform themselves root and branch in the way we need. Mainstream schooling certainly has not and it is unlikely that it even can. In a way it is no surprise that a coercive, directive and conditioning educational system is resorting to hijacking and distorting enlightened spiritual principles to pacify, control and punish children.
Some schools are mandating mindfulness instead of detention or are putting it into the curriculum. On first presentation this might be seen as a good thing. After all, meditation and mindfulness are pretty much accepted as a force for good now by the establishment. But context and agendas matter and in the context of the minds of our children in the schooling system and the agendas that the system is following, there is a sinister hijacking taking place and it is one we should all be concerned with.
Detention is a punishment. The child has done something wrong according to the systems rules ( and the crime no doubt was in some way an expression of utter boredom or rebellion with the system itself ) and the school decides to meet out punishment. All this rebellion and misbehaving can’t possibly have something to do with the rotten system or the conditions children are having to endure can it? Of course not. The child must be at fault. In a punitive system the punishment needs to be something the child does not like right? Otherwise it is not a punishment. Otherwise we would be given kids ice creams and more Minecraft time when they did something wrong. No, they have to suffer, as a deterrent. So how does mandating mindfulness fit into all this? Either it is not a punishment in which case why include it? Or it is. And if we are seriously proposing the imposition of mindfulness as a punishment then the wheels are truly off.
Here are the three likely outcomes of trying to do this:
1. The experience of mindfulness will be received and experienced as a punishment. The result? The child or teenager grows up to associate it with unhappiness, suffering and being wrong. Oh, and emotionally feeling ashamed, angry and guilty. Anyone think that those adults might grow up to find mindfulness something that they avoid or never go near again? Anyone here remember the utter nonsense of enforced religious practice? Once mindfulness is associated with a punitive system then it will get rejected by the enlightened young person who decides to free their mind.
2. Meditation and self awareness as sedative and compliance. The system might like this one as after all isn’t the idea to get little Johnny and Naughty Nicky to stop being themselves and conform to the idiotic boring system? Yup. So maybe the use of mindfulness will crush that rebellious free spirit. This allows the system to carry on as before and not have to question itself.
3. Incredible indifference from children. There is a protective cynicism that arises in and wraps around children when they find themselves unplugged from the joy and freedom of childhood. This cynicism means they end up discounting almost immediately whatever the system mandates for them. With some luck they will just see mindfulness as another word to reject. Later in life the road to self-hood will not be going via the ubiquitous mindfulness that will no doubt have rolled even further over a passive workforce. Hopefully meditation and other disciplines will still find their way into our children’s worlds and help them set their minds free. After all isn’t a free mind what we want for our children?
So the schools are reporting amazing results. Yes, for the school. i.e job done. Child is now a ‘good’ conforming child and so can receive the schools blessing. Yet again we bump into the overwhelming agenda of education, conforming with the system. That the system itself is utterly out of date, not fit for future purpose is never presented as a possibility. But it is a reality.
That children act out in school should be seen as much a problem with the school and the teachers and those who run it as well as the society in which those children live. Sending kids off to a mindfulness room is no more than the technique of good old social isolation (with solitary confinement as effective torture at the far end of that continuum) which, as is well known, is a good way to get a person’s attention especially when they are young. When you get the attention of another person through the tactic of fear and anxiety you had better know that that we will all pay a price for that.
Aligning manipulation and coercion with mindfulness is sinister as it pollutes the word mindfulness and starts a process of priming it in a way that will not evoke joy and freedom and spiritual progress but rather align it with a group of feelings including shame and guilt.
The world is changing rapidly, we are being called to change too and our children have to make sense of the future which we older generations might have made a major challenge to say the least. They need us to stop trying to push and control them into thinking they are going to be living in a future that is like the past. We are never going back to the past and try as it may the educational system needs to wake up to that fact. Perhaps the schooling system itself could benefit from some mindful meditation to up it’s self awareness.
We adults rightly feel some panic about what will become of our children as we witness unprecedented change at a ferocious speed and watch as jobs disappear and wealth continues to pool into the accounts of the 1% (if things carry on like this it will be the 0.5%, then the 0.25% until there is nothing left). Our children need us to evoke a great feeling of freedom and possibility and some courage for who they can become, and need to become, to meet the future. They need love, collaboration and nurturing. They need childhood returned.
The tragedy of all this is that true mindfulness (Buddhism without Buddha) is actually a treasure of human experience and a method for freedom. It is a guide for the emancipation of the conditioned mind to the wide open endless spaces of wonder at the miracle of human consciousness and transcendent connection with the true reality of existence. In other words enlightenment.
Anyone looking around the world can see that we need all the enlightenment we can nurture and evoke if we are to safely take these next great steps into the future. We need an enlightened response to the evolution of our world not an attempted hijacking of the tools of enlightenment and freedom to keep us enslaved to fear and coercion.
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Here we are we have been talking about writing a blog for a long time. I have tried to take our son’s portrait, he told me how to do it, I had to try and make him look like as if he is standing on a small toy car but it didn’t work. So Ant took his shot. My daughters have been busy tapping away….it is nice. It feels like an exciting family project and we are all in on it. The kids love the idea, I love it and here we are. A bit of a learning curve for everyone…
So that is me in the picture under the kids. After having had my daughter try and style a picture of me. I previously had on an apron, was holding a computer, had The Art Book under my arm and was holding a saucepan and a cup of tea. After that picture was taken, I looked at it and I realised I look mad. So Ant’s idea was to pile the children on top of me and it kind of fits and I won’t be able to do that picture in a few years as they will grow and with them on top of me, I will most likely stop breathing.
So whilst lying in bed this morning and not being able to go back to sleep, I asked myself the question, why am I doing this website? Here are some reasons why.
To connect with the rest of the world, to meet fellow unschoolers, home educators and people who aren’t necessarily unschooling their kids but are curious as to what the whole concept is about.
To connect with alternative educators, divergent thinkers, creatives, writers, artists, poets, scientists, historians, dancers, actors, in fact to connect with everyone. Basically to connect with people who have a passion for life and for sharing learning. It is a way of opening up our world. Especially for the kids as well as for us.
To use this website as a way to help the kids with the basics, like spelling, sharing concepts and ideas. To support them and help them with their story writing, where ever that takes them. Also thrown in to all of this is that they are learning about the technology behind doing a blog (me too). What is a post? Why do people post? How do you upload a picture? Which picture? How do you be clear when you write, etc? Why do you add links to things? It seems to, at the moment, really motivate them and inspire them and it has got them thinking and tapping away on the keyboard. Also they have to think about photography and images, so I think it is a perfect tool for learning.
So as for posts from me, I guess I will dig in to what being an unschooling parent looks like, from my perspective but who knows where this will take me…. I also want to share thoughts, ideas, tips, films, talks, pictures, paintings, recipes, resources and ideas. (I have stumbled upon some great resources so far on this journey.) I am hoping that this website can be a kind of positive exchange for people, whether you are an unschooling family or not. I would like it to be a place in which to connect and share interesting stuff and to give a bit of a snap shot as to why and how our family are unschooling here up on a hill in Italy.
Ok, everyone is asleep and I am off to silently sneak in to the kitchen make a cup of tea…Continue reading
From where I am sitting right now, everything is perfect, I am surrounded by families having lunch, chatting, smiling and laughing. I am the odd one on her computer amidst a restaurant full of people eating, in fact the waiters may ask me to leave in a minute…
If I take a quantum leap into the unknown and believe what I have been reading (Thank you Jonathan Safran Foer for talking about belief in We are the Weather) it is clear to me that it isn’t looking pretty.
I think I am grieving for a future that hasn’t happened yet.
My 13 year old son says to me last night ‘I guess this climate change thing is really going to get me’ and in that moment I am not sure how to answer. My friend who is with me says ‘the world will be perfect, us humans have everything we need right now to turn it all around’ I, inside, think we may have what we need but we have no time and not enough is being done. How do I say that to my kids? They read it all on social media and they know what is going on. There was a Radio 4 programme the other day about how to talk to your kids about climate change and my daughter shouts from the other room, ‘We know it all already!’
My husband steers me towards the positive, like the work Peter Diamandis is doing, I must read his book and perhaps redress the balance because I feel sad and when someone denies climate change I feel disbelief followed by compassion. I don’t want to believe it either but we are in the 6th mass extinction, I remember the insects that used to splat on my Dad’s windscreen in the 70’s, where have they gone?
Then I wonder what could be helpful.
Do I teach my kids to be gardeners? Move somewhere remote? How selfish is that, when I really feel that we are all connected, that my kid is your kid. I want to help everyone (which is not realistic) not just my family. Do I join the Red Brigade? Or will everyone soon visually tire of those beautiful eerie people in red walking slowly and gracefully towards trouble to remind us of all the damage that we have done and that doom is on it’s way so we better wake up and get our shit together. Do I make my own band of black doomsday people, to remind people that the clock is ticking? To remind people and myself is why I went to Extinction Rebellion in London, this is why I stood on stilts with a hand less clock around my neck that said ‘NOW’ in the rain.
This is why I will continue to stand up and be a stick in the spokes of a relentless wheel. I am not perfect, I have environmental flaws in my lifestyle, I am a work in progress but I am doing what I can and I feel we can all do so much more than we think we can. But I will also start to look towards the positive, like this article on green roofs in New York. There is so much good news out there and this is where I will point my mind.
If (or should I say ‘when’) a wave of environmental change and disaster is coming then I want to know that I have done something not just for me and my kids but for all of our kids and all of us. Now is the time for us all to positively and from the heart, connect with each other more than ever before. I think it is time to step up. Am welcome to any positive information, please do send it this way in the comments below. We need to read the good news. I need to read the good news! Sent with love and by the way, how do you talk to your kids? #climatecrisis #environment #climatechange #ourchildren #ourfuture #fridaysforfuture #exctinctionrebellion #jonathansafronfoer
Lehla is the co author of Jump, Fall, Fly from schooling, to homeschooling, to unschooling
Because it is going to be so much fun! We really wanted to bring people together who have an interest in alternative education and who would like to immerse their children in a great week long experience of being with creatives who are experts in their field and who would like to be with like minded kids and adults. We have a great line up of people coming!!
We think it will be a lot of fun!
This is a small family camp, we would love to meet you, so please feel free to contact me and reserve your places and also make use of the early bird rate which will runs out shortly!!
We really hope to see you here.
All good thoughts,
Lehla and the Jump, Fall, Fly team.
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Akilah S. Richards is an author, content writer, and podcaster. Her liberation-focused work
explores strategies designed to help people leave or change the environments where they do not
feel free or safe as themselves. She is an intersectional feminist writer with a keen focus on
amplifying the spectrum of Black and Brown people’s voices in the Self-Directed Education
Akilah has given keynotes, breakout sessions, and workshops on radical self-expression,
personal leadership, and writing on college campuses and women’s summits/conferences in the
US and on her home island, Jamaica. She has been featured in Essence and Real Simple
magazines, and has written for MyBrownBaby.com, ScaryMommy.com, TinyBuddha.com,
ForHarriet.com, and EverydayFeminism.com, among others.
Akilah and her husband are digital nomads who live an unschooled life with their two daughters.
She stands in service as a board member for Greening Youth Foundation and the The Alliance
for Self-Directed Education.
Find her on Instagram at here
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Peter Gray, Ph.D., research professor at Boston College, is author of Free to Learn (Basic Books, 2013) and Psychology (Worth Publishers, a college textbook now in its 7th edition). He has conducted and published research in comparative, evolutionary, developmental, and educational psychology.
He did his undergraduate study at Columbia University and earned a Ph.D. in biological sciences at Rockefeller University. His current research and writing focus primarily on children’s natural ways of learning and the life-long value of play.
His own play includes not only his research and writing, but also long distance bicycling, kayaking, back-woods skiing, and vegetable gardening.